I heard someone shouting, “Hey Kundan, isn’t this the same resolution that you had thought during previous New Year?” Huh! Is Kundan himself reading this statement? You may be finding some part of him in yourself as he had believed and had put a resolution that he would bring some change in his behavior last year.
Times of year, many of people are contemplating changes they will make in their behavior for the New Year. Many of us resolve to change some behavior that we believe will benefit us. The most common resolutions tend to be about losing weight, stopping smoking, cutting back on alcohol, being nicer, etc. Of course what is interesting about the tradition of making New Years Resolutions is the traditional expectation that we will quickly break those same resolutions in no time! Hmm… seems like you have done it many times. Yes, so had I! But not any more…
I remember once when I wished my elderly a New Year’s greetings and passed on my resolutions to him, he was reminding me about the decree and the moments we fail to follow through-on that decree as our changed behavior does not provide a quick enough result in our desired outcome. Yes I give him 10 out of 10. We would much prefer that we could take a magic pill and instantly lose our craving for a cigarette, or instantly lose five pounds, or somehow feel better about ourselves, etc. Now let me sound a bit technical here – “Change is a process, not an event; change takes time and time demands patience.” It is true that the process begins with the first step to make the change, along with set backs, a feeling of emotional, mental and sometimes physical chaos, before we actually realize the benefit of the change in behavior we made. Now Kundan has realized that change is not an event, it does not happen overnight, it is not instant and to expect it to be, only invites frustration, madness and ultimately failure to make the desired change in behavior.
If you truly want to change a behavior, commit to it, understand and accept that change is a process and then you will be well on your way to making that change a reality.
Okkk, enough said! So, why are you waiting to New Years to make the change then? Why not make it today?
And yeah, HAPPY NEW YEAR 2007 .